Is Chiron square the IC always painful? No. Early on it feels like a raw spot that never quite closes. Later, the same angle reads as skill: you become the person who knows how to build safety for others because you had to build it for yourself. The pain does not vanish; it changes job description.
Can a relationship survive this square? Yes, and many do. The square does not decide compatibility — it decides where you negotiate. Couples who name the pattern out loud, rather than each waiting to be chosen first, usually find the tension becomes the most honest part of the bond rather than its weak point.
What if I do not know my birth time? Then the IC is an approximation, not a fact. Angles shift about one degree every four minutes, so a rounded birth time can push the IC into the neighbouring sign — and the home story changes with it. Work with the sign you get, and treat the house and the exact angle as provisional until you can confirm the time on a birth certificate.
Does the transit mean something bad will happen at home? No. The transit reactivates what the IC already holds, so it tends to show up as a theme you were already carrying: a move you have been putting off, a family conversation you keep delaying. The planet is not delivering a verdict. It is turning up the volume on something you already know.
How long does the transit last? Months, not days. Because Chiron is slow, you often get up to three passes — direct, retrograde and final direct — with the whole arc stretching across a season or more. The exact contact dates are your planning markers; the weeks around them are when the theme is loudest.
Which is more important, natal, synastry or transit? They answer different questions. The natal square asks how you were built. Synastry asks where two people rub. The transit asks when the theme comes back up. One person can carry all three at once, and they usually do.
Do other points matter as much as Chiron here? For a pure home-and-belonging reading, the other 90° contacts to the IC are worth checking. If the friction is about words and acceptance, Mercury square the IC is the closer match; for care and feeding, Ceres square the IC; for what you had to hide to survive, Lilith square the IC. The same house theme also has a soft version, Chiron sextile the IC, a 60° supportive aspect where the wound and the home help each other instead of colliding. That is a different angle with a different flow: the sextile offers an easier, more cooperative current than the square's ongoing friction, so the same home story reads as encouragement rather than pressure.